Ok parenting group, I need you guys to chime in. I’m a big believer in allowing each parent to make their own decisions, and my personal preference in raising my kids is using affection and encouragement, logic, age-appropriate explainations, and definitely never hitting. That’s just my personality and I feel like my methods work well with my family’s dynamic, but again, to each their own.I’m relatively new to my city and have made a few mom friends who I really enjoy - this was hard for me because I couldn’t find common ground with a lot of the moms on the mom groups my husband suggested I join. I found a lot of SAHM were bored and just wanted to take cute photos of their kids and complain about their husbands - I’m happy with my life so I felt like I couldn’t contribute to any conversations.Anyway, one of my closest mom friends and I get together about once or twice a week. Our kids were born a day apart and get along fairly well. As they approached the early toddler stages, mom friend has started hitting her son when he takes a toy from another kid. I haven’t said anything because my daughter’s pretty social and I’m always close enough to redirect him with another toy for a few minutes. Then I ask my daughter if she’d like to share or show the other toddler her toy. She always smiles and hands it over, she really just enjoys sharing and playing with her peers. If an older kid aggressively snatches a toy from her I gently take it back and say “oh sorry she’s playing with that right now. Give her a minute and I’m sure she’ll be happy to share”. Sure enough, my daughter waddles over and happily shares shortly after.Mom friend confided in me that her son won’t stop hitting her and his dad. He’s getting worse she says. But like... YOU TAUGHT HIM TO HIT!!!!!! I obviously can’t say that to her face as we’ve only known each other a few months and she’s been super helpful with me being 8 months pregnant. She’s having severe issues of him smacking other kids and he’s smacking her when he needs attention. Her and husband are super nice people, but get irritated when their son acts out (which isn’t really acting out in my opinion, he’s 13 months old and learns all his behaviour at home!). It’s never a hard or aggressive smack, but I know it’s not helping her situation.How can I encourage her to try other methods of sharing or redirecting instead of hitting her kid? I don’t wanna seem like a know it all, it just seems like a vicious cycle she’s getting into via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2UrCpfQ
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