Little bit of context: I and my husband got married 4 years ago. It's been fine. He's very introverted and I'm very extroverted so I quite often feel like I don't have enough people to talk to but I learned to live with it. Since he moved to another country to live with me, he lost his job and hasn't been working full-time since then. Recently he got into this bootcamp to try to start another career with my encouragement since both I and he don't want him to become a stay at home dad and I didn't want to continue to be a sole bread winner anymore. I have good income, so we could afford it, but I want us to have upper middle class lifestyle which would be possible with 2 incomes.The baby was born 4 months ago and I went on maternity leave while he went to his bootcamp. I live in a country with paid maternity leave for up to 1 year. So right now I'm just a stay at home mom. It bores the hell out of me but my baby is very cute and nice and his father loves him very much and takes care of him too after school and on weekends. He's very involved, but maybe that's part of the problem. He has opinions about the ways i interact with the baby, like how i like to munch on baby legs just for fun (cos baby looks delicious and he laughs when i do it). Husband said i am teaching him to bite. And today baby turns on his tummy suddenly and hit his head on a closet lightly. The father ran to him and picked him up and told me i had to pay attention to the baby. I feel like wth are you serious i am the main care taker and you can't even take baby for more than 3 hours because the baby will cry out for me (i breastfeed and the baby is very attached to me and even though i leave pumped milk at home when i go out sometimes he just wants me to hold him). Whenever he gives me unsolicited advice, i also get pissed. I also think i was a bit annoyed at him before baby too because i felt he did many silly things while trying to look for a job. I was the sole bread winner for a few years right after we got married and i also did more household chores and right now natural there are even more household chores with baby here. I don't give a f about the chores anymore, i only focus on taking care of the baby. I don't know how long more I'll continue my resentment with husband. I feel like he will never do his 50% in this marriage.Tl;dr: husband doesn't do enough housework and has not been making money (but trying) and still has the gut to criticise me for not being a perfect mother. I resent all unsolicited advice especially from someone i have been having to support. How do women deal with resentment and why do so many men suck at household chores? Do they know it's unfair on their wives? via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2Iy3mJp
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