How to tell someone we do not want them to babysit our daughter?

So recently, i gave birth to my wonderful daughter. She will be 3 weeks old on monday! My mother in law and father in law were supposed to come this weekend but we ended up cancelling due to not wanting to be around mother in law. Here is why:1-She told us to make our daughter do a "backflip" in order to start doing her nights.2-Told us to feed her cow milk mixed with corn sirup instead of formula because that is what she did 23 years ago.3-Told us to start giving pablum and solid foods when our daughter turns 1 month old.4-Insisted on cleaning our house and making food when i clean to easy my anxiety issues and she does not even know how to cook.If you read my past posts, you will see all the shit she pulled on us during my pregnancy such as:-Telling us she would not respect our parental descision.-Demanded to be told when i go into labor/give birth with a picture after telling her we would not update anyone (I ended up super sick the entire night after giving birth and we did not update anyone until later the next day. They knew i went into labor and we got tons of text about them being worried: which is why i did not want to tell anyone in the first place).-Told my husband that i owed her respect because she is older than me.-Called my husband the day we learned we were having a girl to scream at him about how he did not call her first (we were no contact with her back then)And many other things but it's just too long to list it all.So back on the issue, they were supposed to come this week end and like usual it was her idea, never asked us if she could come and just imposed herself. Wanted to make a christmas dinner when we do not even have a stove let alone space to do so. In her head, she was coming to help with the baby while we sleep downstairs. She even proposed "You can bring her to me at the hotel for the night and get some time for yourselves" which i shut down pretty quickly with "No thank you she will not sleep without us". Mind you i was breastfeeding at the time (stopped about a week ago) and it would not have worked because i was not producing enough and needed to moniter her very closely to be sure she was gaining weight.Again, how can i make her understand that she is unreliable, i still havent forgiven her and probably never will for what she did to me and that she will never be left unsupervised or babysit my daughter? I need advicd for the next time she brings it up. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2BL3hgY