owning it

Not surprisingly, my middle school aged kids make mistakes...and then they endure the consequences accordingly (eg, loss of TV time, electronics time, early bed time, etc).The pattern I’d like to address is how poorly they handle the consequences immediately after receiving the punishment. They consistently react with excuses and blame...which then further increases the severity of their punishment.My issue is not how to prevent mistakes. My concern is how to help these kids learn the concept of accountability. And to acknowledge that their mistake might actually be their own fault. Curious to hear how you’ve eventually handled this successfully. I know this is a gradual process, but just wanted to try to get a sense of whether or not I could be taking a more effective approach. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2GF89aH