I'm not sure where to start, because I feel like there is so much that is contributing to this problem. Sorry, this got long.First, I am a single mother. Her dad is in the picture and is a good co-parent, however his work schedule this last month has left me with no down-time to regroup. Her grandmother will sometimes come and spend time with her and her 2.5yo brother which helps, but she is dealing with health issues preventing her from doing that for the last three weeks. So, she hasn't seen much of her dad or her grandmother this last month, which I think is part of it.My feeling frazzled from dealing with a kid who talks and whines ALL THE TIME lately without a break is another part of it. I am a very introverted person and need quiet periods during the day to function. I don't get that at work, and while the kids are awake they are just loud. I don't expect them to be quiet, just I don't get a break from the noise of their activity and constant talking while they're awake.Then we have gotten into the picky food stage, where all she wants to eat is starches (chips, bread, tortillas, crackers, cereal) and cheese. At her school packing a lunch is required, so we always go to the store together to pick out food that she will eat. Lately she will pick something out, and then never want to eat it. I'm talking about foods I know she has eaten in the past, like certain granola bars or fruit, nothing unusual. But I have food intolerances and most of the time cannot eat what she picks out. Things that I can have are generally things she won't eat. Food ends up going to waste all the time, which pisses me off.Which leads to this weekend. All day yesterday I felt like I was being ignored when I would ask them to stop doing something, or go wash hands for lunch. I would constantly have to say things like, "either you can do it, or I can take you to do it" which would finally motivate them to do what I was asking. My daughter is obsessed with boogers, poop, and calling things stinky, and after a while I just can't stand it anymore and need it to stop. We were going to the grocery, and without waiting for me to put my shoes on, my daughter opened the door and her and her brother run outside into the apartment complex parking lot.I run after them and grab them both, telling them sternly that they only go outside with me and that rule is to keep them safe. I make them go back inside. Open the door again when I am ready, and they dash outside to the parking lot again!! I catch them both and calmly, and sternly, tell them if they cannot listen to me we will not be going to the store. We get gas at the gas station, and my daughter was the whole time stinky this, and poop that. I ask her to stop because my ears cannot take it any more. She stops for two minutes and starts this shrill ear-piercing laugh. I ask her to stop again. She does not. We were parked at the grocery by then, and I loose my temper. "DONE. We are done. No grocery, we are going home." She throws a tantrum the whole time I am driving home.Today she starts this rant about how much she hates her clothes and how she isn't going to be Wonder Woman for Halloween. We were at Target last week when she picked it out the Wonder Woman costume, and I asked her more than once if she was sure she wanted to wear it, and I would only buy it if she would wear it on Halloween. Multiple "yes" answers at the store. I am so tired of hearing this. I am not upset she has opinions, I am upset that I try my best to work with her to figure out something in my budget that she will freaking wear and she won't wear it.So I tell her it's fine if she doesn't want to wear the Wonder Woman costume (admittedly through gritted teeth), but because she no longer wants to wear it I will be taking it back to the store. Cue epic freaking meltdown. Then the pleading, "I want to wear it, just not on Halloween." No, that's not going to work and that's not what you said. I try to make it clear I'm willing to keep the costume if it will be worn, but she just starts wailing, "Nobody likes me, everybody wants to take my things away." and sobbing. She tells me to leave, so I do. I give her about fifteen minutes and return when she's calmed down.We move on to trying to get dressed for church, and she refuses to pick out clothes. I give her the choice of picking something out or having me pick out something for her. She picks pants and a shirt, and as soon as she puts them on she starts whining about how they fit and feel. BOTH of these pieces are things she has worn before and are not close to growing out of. Then she starts basically trying to tear up her clothes. I take them off of her, "I will not let you tear up your clothes. If you don't like them that's fine, I'll give them to a little girl who will like them." Cue epic freaking meltdown #2. We ended up staying home from church today because I refuse to deal with this crap in public.If you made it this far, thanks for reading. I want my daughter to know there are consequences for not minding me and her mother isn't made of money. Wasting things is bad, etc. I don't know what else to do. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2ztXN6j
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