child’s grandfather doing her school work

My ten year old stepdaughter is in fifth grade. We live in a state where schools are closed and are doing remote learning. We split custody, 60% us, 40% her mom (but grandparents, really). At first the grandfather had difficulty getting a hang of Google Classroom. When she got home after the first few days, so many assignments were missing and we went over Google Classroom with both the grandfather and stepdaughter. But before she went back that Monday, my husband wanted my stepdaughter complete some assignments, to make it easier on both of them. This included a letter to her teacher, which was being graded as an essay.Now, she wrote the words on a piece of paper. Then I typed it with all lower case letters, misspellings and no punctuation so she would have to find errors. I just thought it may be a good idea since she struggles with those things.Her grandfather was angry because he’d already started writing stuff down for the letter and she didn’t talk about their house enough. I was like... okay. But it was her essay. It was about her feelings and what she’s been up to the past few days. The past few days that she was here.Since then he has proceeded to start doing her work with wild abandon. It’s so clearly obvious. I very gently asked my stepdaughter who wrote it and she said he’d helped her with spelling. I said okay, there are still a lot of spelling errors, can I show you and we can fix them? I showed her the work and she was blown away because this man wrote paragraphs. Whereas stepdaughter is a one sentence and done type of girl in that type of work (working on it). And he’s not even getting 100s!I showed her a few other assignments and same reaction. Now I have a ten year old afraid of getting in trouble. This is all so stressful with the pandemic. And don’t ask where her mom is in all of this cause all I got for you is, she’s up in her room listening to music and texting her boyfriend.So here is the real question: I have a conference call with one of her teachers in a few hours. Do I tell her? See if she can send out a mass email about guardians and parents not doing children’s work? Leave it be while I slowly descent into madness? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2JBXoFC