Should I expect my husband to help with our daughter after work?

So that title sounds bad, but I didn't know how else to word it.I'm a SAHM. My husband works 9hr days and gets off work at 5pm most days, sometimes earlier, sometimes later. He stays downstairs until about 7-8 most of the time and then goes upstairs into his man cave to play video games. When he is down here with us he...doesn't do a whole lot with our daughter. I mean he helps when I ask but kind of defaults to me doing everything for her, if that makes sense? He never "takes her off my hands" unless I have been very vocal over text that I've had a shitty day and even then he kind of waits after he gets home until I verbally ask him to let me have some alone time. He will put her into her chair at the dinner table when I'm getting dinner ready if I ask, he'll take her to the potty if I ask him to or ask her to ask him to. For some time I was asking him to put her to bed at night but he always had a bad attitude about it but then would come back and say something like he understands that I do pretty much everything else for her so it's the least he could do, but lately I've been doing it more and more and have had to ask him again, like tonight I asked him to put her to bed and he said "really? Fine" and then hung up and came down the stairs kind of upset that I'd asked.When he is downstairs with us 99% of the time he is on his phone playing phone games or on reddit looking at memes. It's not like he really interacts with us on a real level...I just kind of feel like I'm being bitchy and expecting too much of him since he works and I don't. The only chores I ask him to do is if the laundry isn't done by the time it gets dark I'll ask him to go down in the basement and do it for me since the basement freaks me out at night, or the odd time I'll ask him to take the trash out. I do that most of the time though. Am I an asshole for thinking he should take her sometimes even if I didn't necessarily have a shit day? To note, she doesn't normally go to bed until about 9pm so once she goes to sleep I don't have a lot of time to myself before I have to go to bed, or if I stay up later I end up exhausted the next day. The weekends aren't much better, I have to wake up at 7am with her like through the week so he can sleep in and if I try to wake him up he'll be in a horrible mood for the rest of the day because the weekends are the only time he gets to sleep in. I get that but like....I never get to sleep in unless I put cartoons on for her and make her sit on top of me on the couch so I can feel her if she gets up and kind of half-sleep with her sitting on my side for half an hour or so. I end up waking him up on the weekends nearly 100% of the time because if I don't he'll sleep until 1pm or longer. He normally stays upstairs playing video games until 2-3am, sometimes longer.I know I have it easier than him. He has a hard job and i just have to stay at home and deal with a toddler all day. I get it. But I get tired too, I like downtime too. I don't know if I'm expecting too much from him. I feel like maybe we should split up the downtime days so some days he gets to go upstairs and play, sometimes I get to just go lie down in bed for a while...idk. what do you guys think? Am I being unreasonable? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/36oOzIk