Saw condom outline in daughter’s jeans

So 16yr old came home from work (she works with bf of 3years, yes 3 years...) and I clearly saw outline of condom in back pocket. She chatted with her dad and I a few minutes and then went to do homework.I went to say goodnight about an hour later and she was laying in bed, same jeans, the condom gone from pocket.I don’t know if I should say anything, I’ve already had multiple sex talks, consent talks, responsibility, std, the works. About 6 months ago I just had a feeling things were progressing so I made her an appt and said we are going to get you birth control because you two have been together for so long and no, I’d rather not you 2 be having sex, but hey I’m no dummy and I’m too young to be a grandma and you’re definitely too young to be a mom. She was embarrassed and everything but she didn’t argue one bit. I gave her the option of which bc and have told her she can go to each appt by herself now but she has wanted me to go to them all with her. That’s about the extent of any conversations with sex with her as she gets very quiet and will shut down whenever I try to give any parenting advice.So there’s my dilemma.. I want her to feel comfortable coming to me with anything, I’ve told her we will never yell at her or get mad, we will have adult conversations. It would kill me if she needed advice on anything and didn’t feel she could ask us for help. So, I’m wondering if I should tell her I saw the condom outline as a way of starting a conversation about how I’m happy they are staying safe and making good decisions in that regard... to further her confidence that she can come to us without the fear of judgment or lectures or yelling. Or should I let it go? I don’t want to embarrass her or anything, I just want her to know she doesn’t have to be scared of her parents.This teen parenting is hard and I really just want to not raise her the way my mom raised me... with fear and resentment. I have a terrible relationship with my mom so I’m scared of doing anything the way she would have to make my kids not want to talk to me after they move out. I also don’t want to be a pushover, which I don’t feel like that with her but hopefully someone knows what I mean.Sorry so long, just hoping for advice from parents of teens, and even teens that have been there. Thank you!! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/368zXx3