Teaching toddlers consent

I’ve been making a habit of asking my toddlers permission before hugging or kissing them. I have a boy and a girl. I want them to understand boundaries and consent. For example: Me at bedtime : “Can I give you a hug goodnight?” 3yo: “No Daddy.” And then I do not hug. No pressure. They decide. 3yo: “Yes Daddy.” And big hugs! I can see the benefits, when they meet a relative for the first time, they understand that they do not have to hug them, and has helped with their stranger danger response. Similarly, they do not force affection on other children. I was very proud of my parenting until the other day when I asked them to clean up their toys. 3yo: “No Daddy” Me: “I asked you to pick up your toys.” 3yo: “No means no, Daddy” Looks like I need to keep working on this one. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2RKob64