Hi all.My daughter, Lisa, is 16. She is currently in Year 11 and will be finishing school soon. She is a lovely girl who has never been in any kind of trouble before.During her very first week of secondary school back when she was 11, Lisa came home crying saying she had been picked on by a girl called Nicole, who managed to isolate a large group of girls against her. Lisa made her own friends, but sadly this girl never left her alone.Lisa frequently came home complaining about Nicole over the years. The bullying was pretty extreme. At one point our dog was very ill, and the girl put a picture of a dead dog in Lisa's pocket. As well as this, most schools in our area have police checks, in which officers turn up with sniffer dogs for drugs, knives, etc. Nicole is apparently a weed smoker, and when she heard about the police, she put the stuff in Lisa's bag. Lisa didn't find out about this until one of her friends sniffed it, and managed to get rid of it before they were searched. When the police had left Nicole went up to her saying it was a shame she didn't get arrested. Lisa came home crying her eyes out.Myself and my wife have been to the school more than a few times to complain about this girl's behaviour towards Lisa. We have tried to point out That Lisa genuinely does not feel safe at school. The teachers say that nothing physical has ever happened and so it isn't a safety problem. Lisa believes it is because Nicole is some kind of academic high achiever. Lisa says she is already studying material meant for older people and she is currently the school's ''head girl'' and the teachers absolutely adore her.Lisa came home crying two days ago saying that Nicole had accused her of attacking her. Apparently she has two black eyes and cuts all over her face, and she's claiming that Lisa is responsible. Lisa insists she didn't touch her.I was called into the school yesterday morning, where Nicole's mum was there too. She was calling Lisa a thug and a bully and saying that Nicole was afraid to go to school. She is just as snobby as her daughter, saying that Lisa was bullying Nicole ''for being pretty'' and that she attacked her out of jealousy. It was acknowledged that nobody has any video proof of this attack, but several of Nicole's friends (the same ones who spread rumours about Lisa) have come forward and claimed it happened.Now, we aren't the sort of parents who will insist that our child is in the right. It is a possibility that Lisa did attack Nicole especially after five years of bullying and resentment. But she absolutely insists that it didn't happen and that it's another lie. After all the tricks the girl has pulled in the past it wouldn't be a long shot.Lisa will today be in a ''behavioural support unit'' in isolation from the other kids. To be honest, her mum and me regret not pulling her out of school earlier and transferring her to a different one. We would do it now but she's in the middle of coursework and has exams approaching and a move would hugely affect that. But at the very least it will keep her safe from Nicole.Advice? via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2TsioCc
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