When daughter was younger (especially 5-6), she naturally woke up very early on the weekends. At 5 AM, she would come into the bedroom and shake one of us awake. She was younger then and not really capable of being alone for several hours to wait for us to get up. So it was fine. We set a rule that she had to wait until she saw daylight outside before waking us up (i.e 7-8 AMish), otherwise had to stay in bed. It sort of worked, but she would frequently wake us up at all hours of the night/morning anyway. Especially in the middle of the night. So many nights at 3 AM she shook us awake.Anyway, she's 8 now. She can sleep through the night on her own, she showers on her own, she's reading chapter books, etc. Point being, she's growing up.Now, she wakes up at a more normal time but always comes in to wake up dad. We had a long discussion with her about this 2 months ago because her dad was in the hospital for a month and part of his recovery was needing to get uninterrupted sleep for a long period of time. She said she understood. We told her she was free to do whatever in the morning as long as she was quiet: play with barbies, read, draw, etc.She respected that rule for a little while (I think). But this morning at 9 AM she was in the bedroom shaking dad awake. I told her to go back to her room. 20 minutes later when he woke up, I asked him if she's been waking up him. He said yes, she's been waking him up every morning.Now, 9 AM is a very reasonable time. It's not super early, and it's an okay time to wake up.however... I told her to go back to her room, that we'd talked about this, and she can't be waking other people up. For 2 reasons:We had several serious discussions about this due to her dad recovering from being in the hospital. We made it clear that if she woke up early, she needed to stay in her room (but could play with whatever she wants)I think that perhaps at 8 years old, it's a matter of learning patience and empathy for others. If she thinks she can go and wake people up just because she's bored, that's teaching her that SHE'S the most important person and everyone else is here for her entertainment, that we revolve around her every whim. It's also teaching her she doesn't have to stick to rules.Now, I'm not totally sure about my point #2. That's what I personally think but maybe I'm being too strict? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2JtHXhX
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