How do you connect with your teenager when they aren't talkative and you don't share similar interest?

I constantly hear people talk about how important it is to talk to your teenagers and know what is going on in their lives. I completely agree but I feel like most of these people have teens who are willing to open up or have teens who have a lot going on. I have one of those teens as well and it's so much easier with him but my 16 year old and I struggle to connect on a deeper level.I think part of it is not sharing the same interest and him not having a lot going on outside of the house. My younger teen always has updates and things to share about his practice or game or school event or club or friends. The oldest talks a little about school but doesn't go into great detail. He does exceptionally well in school (high school junior) but is more of a kid who goes to school to learn and that's it. He plays a lot of video games and spends a lot of time in the online world. He'll talk about interesting things he learned but it's more of a never ending monologue than an actual conversation. The younger one will talk about what girl he likes or what he and his friends did at a sleepover so I feel like I have good insight on his life. He comes to us for advice and trust our judgment for the most part. The older one is in his own world most of the time and doesn't let anyone in.I ha e tried car rides but that doesn't help. I have tried playing video games but that doesn't help. What can I do to connect with my teenager? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Pz7kRd