She has been through a lot for her age. A divorce in her other family, several moves (3 in the last 2 years to different states), went from living upper middle class to poor and under her grandmas roof, and her mom mistreats her (yelling and possibly some emotional abuse). That's the short story, our goal in the long run is to fight for custody but that's a whole other separate issue.So anyways she has very low confidence. She has very poor reading and spelling skills especially and therefore hates anything to do with reading. She will complain relentlessly about doing it and will often resort to pretending she is asleep or not really reading but just playing with the pages.But it's also everything else we do. She has to take a shower that she doesn't feel like? She will be in a persistently negative mood for almost an hour, until there is a next thing that frustrates her. Going on a small hike? She will immediately say she hates it. First day of school? Hates it. Has to eat something she doesn't like? She will complain and become really argumentative.We only have her for every other weekend. We have a lot of meaningful talks with her about it. Her dad the other night looked her in the eyes before bed and said from his heart, "It would really mean a lot to me if you took our reading time more seriously" and she responded with a guilty, "I know dad, I'll try harder". And she does really feel bad about a lot of these things later but is 10 and still lives in the moment with her emotions and has a lot going on in her life.How can we help to build up her confidence with the little time we have her for? We were thinking about getting her involved in archery lessons by her (our side) grandma's house... she did it once and seemed to like it and has not done any sports before (she seems to be really insecure about doing any sports). But other than getting her involved in activities, I'm at a loss as to how to help her. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2oLdCBX
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