Thanks to all the posters who gave me advice re: my people-pleasing little girl and her crush.I went in to school this morning and sat down with the teacher and told her what was going on, and how upset my girl has been about it.She was very receptive and supportive, and said what I figured; that she sees my girl, this boy, and my girl’s other little friend in a tight threesome all the time and she just kind of let it be. But now that she knows the fuller picture, she will help intervene. She is also going to talk to the math teacher and the French teacher so that they are on board with helping separate the kids and also start talking about respecting other people’s boundaries.For my part, I made it clear to my girl that: A) our rule is, no boyfriends/girlfriends until at least 13, when we will revisit the question; B) crushes are okay, but physical interaction is off the table; C) if you feel uncomfortable with something, you MUST tell the person, and if that is too hard, you MUST tell an adult;Also, I’m going (right now, literally) to sign both my girls up for the YMCA and we’re going to start having more confidence building activities, to support this whole effort of getting away from the idea of your body as a playground for boys.And I’m getting some personal coaching for my people-pleasing tendencies so I can be the mom my girls need, and the woman I can be.That is all.Thanks again. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2qai9zd
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