The kid is giving up too easy on anything

Dear fellow parents,I am a father of 10 years old kid whom I love with all my soul and heart. Just as you do love your kids too. I have tried to search the discussions but I coudn't find a similar topic and that's why I am initiating that discussion.My issue is that the kid is giving up too easy on anything that would require a bit more of efforts that he is willing to invest. Here are few examples to make myself clear:At the age of 6 he started attending individual swimming lessons. The instructor was a young guy and they fit very well with each other. At the beginning the kid enjoyed the 2 per week training sessions and was eager to attend them. It has all been joy and fun. At some point, however, his instructor started being more demanding with the purpose to provide better progress. Once the kid felt that it is not just jumping and swirling in the water and he has to be more strict on following the instructor's guiding he lost interest and subsequently we quit bringing him to the swimming pool.Another example is the guitar lessons he was taking. He rarely did his home assignments, actually doesn't play at home at all and after more than 3 years of regular attendance the progress was fairly modest and his motivation faded out by itself, despite the fact that the guitar school and his teacher in particular are very supportive and often organize concerts where the students (including my kid) perform (mostly in front of the parents). He doesn't want to attend it anymore.Last year he expressed interest into skateboarding. We took him to a skatepark and he enjoyed it so much. He got hooked by the older guys, by the atmosphere and the culture, and everything. Everyone is super friendly with him and he enjoyed it so much. We got him enrolled into a skate club which he attended twice per week with an instructor. Him (and us, the parents) became close and into the skate subculture (e.g. attending events, concerts, competitions - as observers, since he is not that good enough to compete, and other social gathering organized by the skate scene pushers. It was basically fun for us all. He got so hooked, that we built a real miniramp in his room. (We had to rennovate it anyway and since he was still sleeping with us, the miniramp was a good motivation to make him move to his own room). BUT he is having struggles with the "ollie" (skater moms and dads will relate, but its basically the basic trick that skaters should be able to do in order to progress further) + he is afraid of falling and hurting himself to an extend that he gave up and he doesn't want to practice that anymore. And there is nothing that can make him go back to the skatepark, despite multiple talks with us and with his fellow skatebros.Before that we had the same issue with soccer - he said the doesn't feel good enough and that was it. And nothing is able to change his mind.The only activity that he feels good about is gaming. He can play on the XBOX forever which we and his mom are trying to limit.So I would like to ask for advice on what should me and his mom do in order to make him more motivated, more willing to invest efforts and not giving up that easy.Thanks for all thoughts and comments. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Gy66BD