I hate myself

My 11 year old girl has given me attitude and once she said "that's because you're a bitch" and I said don't say that again that's very rude. Then said she was kidding. All day yesterday anything she didn't like ... such as eating, getting dressed etc. Said "I hate You." At 11:23pm... I was folding her clothes to put it away and I said "come on let's go, it's time for bed".. and she said "i hate you!". I got So angry that I started saying the same thing to her. I know it wasn't the right response from me. But I am so sick of hearing "I hate you" from her. I do everything for her.... everything. Even staying with her stupid father for her. I screamed at her "I hate You! I hate you! I hate you". And said "since we both hate each other can you brush your teeth so your teeth don't fall off so I won't go to jail for child neglect? Can you wash your face to prevent pimples so people don't think that i dont buy you skin products?""Since you hate me so much, tell your computer friend to cook for you, take you to the doctor, clean your room, and do everything for you!" "From now on you are doing your own laundry" Then I got so emotional because she's going through health issues out of my control and it makes me sad thinking about that. So I started crying non-stop. I know I shouldn't have done that. I shouldn't have yelled at her like that but I was so pissed. I told her so many times not to tell me "I hate you" . She said she didn't mean it and that she loves me ... but really? I've never told my mother I hated her. I would be angry at her but never told her I hated her via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2vqhldQ