Help

I am a mom of two incredibly awesome boys (9 and 5) who are very smart, sometimes too smart. While we have had the usual boy mischief in the past, this year has brought on behaviors that my husband and I just don't understand. We moved to a new city, about 15-20 minutes from old-which meant a new school system. We moved into a larger home and chose the city FOR the schools. The boys have adapted pretty well, and it'll be a year this April. However, the past few months, both (and not always at the same time), have just been constantly getting in trouble at home and school. Both have outstanding grades, but their social skills are what seem to be the issue. Our oldest most times is in trouble for not listening, not respecting authority (ignoring directions in class), and recently his mouth. Our youngest, who up until this point has always been a good listener; but following suit with his older brother. So his attitude, disrespect, tantrums are the worst they've been. Between the two, my husband and I have tried all efforts. I am a nurse, so everything I've ever read and known with kids was "if the kids are acting out, they need more attention, love or something more from you". We show each child how special they are. We talk to them every night before bed. When they are disrespectful or get in trouble at school, we punish with taking electronics away, or other things we know they'd enjoy. Both have this attitude like "well just get it back eventually so who cares". It causes so much tension in the home, as well as between my husband and I. ANY sort of help, advice would greatly be appreciated. I'm new to this, but at this point I just need help. Thanks in advance to anyone who takes the time to read this. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2k18SHk