Throwaway. I'm divorced for 6 plus years. I have a decent relationship with her Mom and tolerate her Mom's boyfriend. Let's call daughter Chiquitita and boyfriend Fernando because I like to type.Chiquitita and I went out for dinner tonight and she complained that Fernando creeps her out and is always trying to hug her and constantly telling her he loves her. Before you get your pedo pitchforks going, I asked if it was sexual creepy, or just creepy in general. She said it was more of a boundary stomping/always in her personal space type of creepy and she just isn't a hugger.She said when she refuses to hug him her Mom will occasionally tell her to hug him rather than ask her boyfriend to respect her wishes. Mom and Fernando have a toddler(F) together and while this is none of my business, Chiquitita told me that Fernando will punish the toddler for refusing to hug him. I feel this is teaching toddler she has no control over who touches her or when they touch her, but like I said, it's not my kid or my business. I just wanted to point out it's not isolated behavior towards Chiquitita.I'm looking for advice to get my ex to see that Chiquitita is her own person and should be in control of her own body. If she chooses to hug Fernando, that's her choice, but she shouldn't be forced or shamed into it. Same with the constant "I love you"s, I feel this is a form of abuse/boundary stomping?? but I don't quite know how to put it. I just know that it bothers Chiquitita so I'd like it to stop.tl;dr: Ex's boyfriend constantly tries to hug my daughter and she doesn't like it. I need to get Mom on board with respecting a teenage girl's boundaries. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2cxnfR0
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