Currently on my anniversary over night and had a conversation with my husband that turned into a fight where he basically said that I'm not 'calm' with the kids and that I get too worked up. I admit it - I don't stay calm all the time but most of the time I do. He sees the few times that I can't hold it together and get stressed and vent to him. Most of my frustration is vented to him so that I don't do it in front of the kids (I say to him things like, 'if I have to go in there one more time I'm going to f-one flip my shit' after the 8th time going in to settle my 3 year old at bed time - he calls me in for stupid shot over and over again and by the 18th time I'm OVER IT!). Currently in our hotel room pissed because he told me I'm not calm like his mother was (even though he admitted hat his parents' parenting style didn't work for him and our son is just like him so it wouldn't work for him). Trying to get past this but I am having trouble. I often ramble and write stuff to myself that no one ever reads... So I guess I'm just trying this here. Edit: I should add that I also told him that I think he's too lenient on the kids. And that he needs to be more consistent and stick to his guns rather than caving when they whine. That didn't go over well either. But he's is and he does. I guess our only night out for our anniversary isn't the best time to be talking about these things... via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2cUXjNI
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