Short back story:My best friends wife split on him and they're 4 year old son, which is good because she was toxic. She had this weird obsession with raising her son as a transgender. She pushed him to wear dresses and Princess outfits, which is FINE if that's what HE wanted, but she started this as an infant.After she bailed their son (we will call him Sam) started having a normal childhood. He got into cars, wanted to be a pirate, started acting more appropriate for his age (by that I mean his mannerisms and he wasn't obsessing over being a pretty princess. He was talking about other stuff)Problem is, after seeing his mom he gets obsessive again and all of the things he enjoyed before (playing blocks, Pirates, ninjas, pretend cooking, ect) he has no interest in. He just wants to play princess, wear dresses and be rescued by the prince.Here where things get even stickier... and here is what I'm asking advice on..My friend and I live together with his 4yr old (Sam) and my 3yr old son (call him John).John is a typical rowdy boy. He likes pretend cooking too (they have a standing playset) cars, Pirates all that. He does not like dresses or dress up (I never pressured him in either direction. If he wanted to dress up, it would make me feel a little weird, not gonna lie, but I wouldn't say no. I have NO prejudice against that. I judt feel it should be THEIR choice. I want to make that clear. In Sam's case, it was never HIS choice)Anyway.. Sam is always wanting John to dress up. John says no. Sam cries. To help with this, we made super hero masks and capes. That way John WANTS TO play dress up witb Sam and no feelings get hurt.Except...Now when they play superhero and princess, Sam wants John to play sleeping Beauty witb him. He wants to be the princess and wants John to play the prince and kiss him awake..Im at a loss now. I dont know what to do. I talked to Sam's dad, he agrees its not appropriate but he doesn't know how to go about this either. We told them no kissing, because they could get sick to stall and find a better way of going about this.Ideas? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2cY2CPu
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