Expecting momma with sick LO looking for advice (from parents only, please)

Me and partner are expecting baby #2, I'm 4 months along. The issue is we were informed that our baby is very ill with a congenital illness and probably won't survive very long after birth. A few babies with her condition do grow up, but most don't. Daddy and my family want me to terminate early to avoid the medical bills, but I can't bring myself to do it. I keep picking up the phone to schedule the appointment, but I can't actually do it. She is a very wanted, planned baby that me and dad both were excited for.I'm a member of a popular mother/baby forum and asked for advice there. that was a mistake, because it made me feel so much worse. The pro-lifers were scolding me for even considering medical termination, and a few of the pro-choice mommas called me nasty names for considering keeping a sick baby. It feels like whatever choice I make, the baby is the only one suffering for it.I just feel screwed no matter what I do. Legally, I still have until 24 weeks to decide. Emotionally, i'm a train wreck. I keep fantasizing about her being that 10% who go on to live, even though I know that probably won't be the case. It's just so unfair to be in this position at all, I can't stop crying. I wish I could be anyone else right now. Have any of you mommas had to deal with this before? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2UfPmJm