One of those days

I got no sleep and have not felt well for a week. The little kids have viral infections and ear infections but are getting better. I'm grumpy.I just had an argument with my almost 15 year old. I'm just asking him to do his chores and be ready for school on time.After all the excuses of he forgets or he is ready on time I just didn't tell him I was leaving crap...I told him when I was his age I could do those things to which he responded that he's not me, he's himself and I need to accept that. I told him that didn't fly in the world, if he can't get to work on time because he's himself he will just not have the things he wants because he won't have a job.I told him he gets a lot and that for example his mom hates his furry obsession and she didn't want him to have the free wolf ears from great Wolf Lodge but I understand it's just his thing and he got to have them. He gets to be him. But his response was that if he didn't get them his friends would just get him some. That's just angering. So I told him I won't bother any more his friends can just give him everything from now on.I said I've observed that since he's gotten his tablet it's been worse. And that I give leeway when I'm feeling better but don't have the patience when I'm not feeling well but shouldn't have to and I wouldn't have to yell if he'd just do the things expected.He's said wait wait you said my tablet is the issue but now your saying it's something else.... I'm just thinking to myself that he needs to stop trying to win like it's a debate and stop trying to sound smart and just make it easy by understanding him not doing his chores or being ready for school is the problem. Just do them. Then no issues.So he went in a rant that it wasn't his tablet, he'd have done it anyway without it and it's his Xbox and tv and blah blah.... So I said .. dude you're telling me that I should take away all your stuff because it's a distraction. He's so hell bent on protecting his tablet he's throwing everything under the bus blaming basically that he had too much stuff.I pointed this out and he seems to finally see. I got him to stop focusing on the blame stuff and protecting the tablet and told him the issue is him not doing his chores. That's it. Just say your gonna do them properly and actually follow through and your won't have to protect anything.I just am struggling with my own internal battles and every time I get in a telling match with him I feel more depressed like I am doing things wrong.I have too much anxiety to meet friends or do things so I have no one to hang out with or vent to. Honestly I have no friends and I think I must give off a bad vibe. I dunno my point to all this. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2rhkpZ9