let me preface by saying I'm generally a very live and let live type person/parent. I've always been very 'you do you'. But I really disagree with my friends parenting style, her kid is a brat (not something I say lightly) and I find it really unpleasant to be around them.So due to some unfortunate circumstances I moved back to my home city so my mom can help me with my child. I thought this would be a great time to reconnect with a friend who was my best friend through childhood, our teen years, and very early 20's until I moved away. we are now 31&32. We both have daughters, mine is 3, hers is 4.I was so looking forward to us spending time together with our kids, she is a SAHM and I work a part time position. The truth is I just really hate being around her daughter. She whines constantly, and throws tantrums all the time. she is then always given what she wants.some examples:the four of us were at the zoo, my friend has a wagon, said don't bring yours, they can sit in ours. okay, great. Her daughter was off playing on a dinosaur or something, and while she was doing that my daughter wanted to just pull the wagon around this circular pathway. So she is doing that, her daughter sees and starts yelling about how its her wagon and my daughter shouldn't be pulling it. My friend actually came over and took the wagon away. I get it, it is their wagon, bit not how I would have handled it. what ever, move past that. Later that day were sitting having ice cream, my daughter gets some on her face. Her daughter points at mine tells her her face is dirty and doesn't want to sit with her any more, then gets up and walks to another table. my friend just said "I guess were sitting over there" and went and sat with her like nothing. okay, what ever move on.About a week later, we took the girls bowling. Her daughter didn't do well in one frame and started screaming that its not fair and she wants to try again. so she says okay, resets the board and lets her bowl the frame again. She did this 3 more times. It was hard to explain to my daughter who was disappointed on poor frames why she had to wait for her turn to come again, and friends daughter didn't.We had planned to see a movie. a specific movie, my daughter was so excited, when we got to the theatre before buying tickets her daughter decided she wanted to see a different one (we had talked to both girls the night before about which movie to see and they were both in agreement). My friend tells her "okay" and then says to me "I guess were seeing X movie instead." I told her to enjoy it, because my daughter and I were going to see movie A.I could go on and on. The kid isn't a bad kid, she just knows if she screams or cries she instantly gets what she wants. I just find it so unpleasant being around this kid.Before you ask the daughter isn't special needs. She used to have a speech delay and went to/goes to a special needs preschool, but since having gone to this preschool her speech has mostly caught up. And I would think a class room with a special needs teacher, an OT, PT, and SLP would have noticed if there were other special needs happening. It is a parenting problem. and it just makes me really sad because I don't think I can keep hanging out with my friend and her kid.also, I know I am not a perfect parent, no one is. I generally try to mind my own business but its just unpleasant to be around. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2r5JNRH
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