Edit: spelled Daughter wrong in titleThis situation has a lot of elements and I will try to keep it as concise as possible.First off, I should mention that the entire dynamic with my husband's family has shifted over the past year and a half. My MIL has lost around 100 lbs during that time and seems like a completely different person.My husband hsters with 4 girls between them. 2 of the granddaughters are 10 years, one is 8 years, and the other is 4. I have a 7 year old daughter from a previous relationship, and my husband and I now have a 6 month old baby boy.Although my husband and I have only been married for a year, we have dated since my daughter was 2 years old. My daughter has grown up in this family pretty much her entire life. She gets along with her cousins well and calls everyone aunt, uncle, grandma, etc. We celebrate holidays together and before things seemed to shift, there have been years where we have all gotten together at my in-laws at least 2-3 times a month.Basically, I have noticed that my daughter is now treated differently. MIL doesnt acknowledge her presence whatsoever. My daughter was really, really upset on Thanksgiving because she noticed all throughout MIL's house, there are pictures of the other granddaughters, and now her baby brother, but not a single picture of her. She went checking from room to room and was heartbroken.Like I stated previously, MIL does seem extremely different, and my husband and I are treated differently now too. She wouldn't even greet us when we came over for Thanksgiving, she just started bitching that we left the gate open. It was a federal issue that I needed to heat the dish that I brought for 15 minutes before serving. She and everyone else dote on the baby, but we feel like outsiders.This isn't the first we've noticed the change with MIL. There are too many examples to list in one post. My husband brought it up to her back in the summer after much of the same started happening back then. She denied anything was wrong, even pulled me aside privately and reassured me nothing is different, they still love me, we are welcome there, etc.So... not sure if she's exactly the most self-aware, as her words clearly do not match her behavior.The whole family is celebrating Christmas today, because FIL works out of state and won't be home for Christmas. My husband and baby are over there now. My daughter is at her Dad's today. I decided not to go because I just can't stand how unwelcome I feel over there now.I used to adore his Mom and absolutely loved being with his family. Now I dread gatherings for days ahead of time. We've spoken to MIL previously and she denies anything is wrong. I haven't brought up the issue with my daughter being ousted yet and don't know if it's even worth it.What do I do about this? I don't want to put any more effort in with people who treat me like I'm not worth even a simple "hello" on holidays and I refuse to subject my daughter to situations where she is clearly not seen or treated as a part of the family. Thank you. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/37UWKhE
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