Depression, I need some parents point of view.

Hi all,I am a mom of three little kids. I live in the US, I have a great home, loving husband and great children.But here is the problem, I am originally from Mex, shortly after I moved here my sister moved to a different state in mex to pursue her career. This was hard on our parents since we were always together.But about 4 years ago, my sister committed suicide and this has changed our lives. After having my first born diagnosed with ASD and my only sibling dying I went on antidepressants.I am fine now, I can function on a daily day to day life happenings. But my parents are completely lost.They come visit once a year, but they’re not the same. I have suggested for them to see a psychiatrist to treat their depression but they refused to be dependent on meds to “live”.So when they come, the sleep very odd hours. They’re awake very late at night and they sleep past noon. They don’t want to get out and they’re most of the time dragging their feet around.I pleaded for the to give the meds a chance but I haven’t been successful. They’re home now, we barely talk because when I’m awake and available they’re sleeping. There’s only one hour difference between here and my hometown.But all they do is sleep. They’re retired now. My dad spends his day playing solitaire and my mom watches tv all day. When we do FaceTime it’s me always watching them play solitaire or watching my mom watch tv.They said they’ll sell their homes and move here, but nothing happens. They own property that they can sell, but no one has that much money to buy them so they can’t sell them.Being here with their grandkids helps a lot, kids are energetic and keep them busy but nothing I say or suggest is good enough. They get upset or sad if I don’t spoil the kids like they do, they want me to let kids be because someday they won’t be here and I’ll miss them. But I can’t spoil the kids they way they want me to. I get an earful when I scold them for misbehaving so having them here is stressful at times.If I tell them to come up and visit they can’t leave for X or Y, or the dog (my sisters dog) won’t have anyone to stay with. They adore the dog since it’s the only thing my sister left them with.I won’t go there because it’s dangerous for me and my family. I can’t suggest anything good, my dad doesn’t take any action and my mom is still too sad to function.I feel like a horrible daughter. They don’t want to be helped. They tell me I already forgot my roots, I am too modernized to understand, it’s not that easy, I don’t understand, I abandoned them when I don’t call but the thing is they’re always sleeping and when we actually call they spend their time watching tv or playing computer games too busy to talk with me.Has anyone been here in a situation similar to mine? I don’t know what can I do to help them. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2s5cjTC