I have a 16yo son who has had serious depression for a year or so. We're doing all the recommended things to treat him and he's holding steady but has occasional days when he's really down. He can also get upset really easily.He attends a rigorous test-in high school that I knew was going to be a big challenge. He's very intelligent but just has never been into school work or motivated to work really hard in school.His grades are terrible. Freshman year he held a B average. This term he has several Ds and may flunk a class or two. Nothing we do motivates him to do his work. We've met with teachers, counselor, therapist, etc. The more we push, the less he wants to do and the more upset he gets.Clearly the work load is oppressive to him and a main source of his stress and anxiety.But other than the work, he really likes the school and wants to stick it out. He doesn't particilate in activities, but he just likes the "vibe" of the school and apparently has friends there (though he never goes out socializing.) He's very reclusive at home (games a lot, skypes with friends and is very social in that way.)His Dad and I are separated but co-parent well and agree on most things. His Dad wants to move him to a less rigorous neighborhood school next year, which son is very opposed to. Son says if we send him to a different school that he won't do any work there.I think moving him, even if the schoolwork is easier, will be very emotionally stressful for him. He's always had a hard time with new situations and the fact that his current school is one of the few things he WANTS in life right now makes me think that moving him would be a bad move emotionally. Chances are that his school-work stress might go down once he engages, so it's a trade-off.I'd love to hear any thoughts on which path you would take. Current rigorous school vs. new easier school where he won't know anything but a few kids, transferring for junior year.Thanks for reading this far. via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/3114Y4f
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