I posted this yesterday but only got 3 comments who all thought I was worried about my son being introverted. That's not the case. I know he is an introvert and genuinely don't care. My concern isn't with him wanting to be alone. My concern is with him not engaging with other kids when he is around them.My youngest is 4 and finishing up preschool. Yesterday his class had an outdoor party. Parents were invited and I watched as my son sat out of just about everything there was to do. He played for a little while with a couple of friends but eventually wondered over to the grass and sat down. He asked his teacher if he could read a book and she told him that he couldn't, so he just went back to his spot on the grass and sat down. I went over to him twice to see if he needed anything but he said he was okay. Parents were asked to leave about 2 hours before school ended and he asked me if I could take him home early. I told him that I was going to leave him there because I had to come back and get his brothers anyway and had to run out and do some errands. He hates going shopping and agreed to stay at school. When I picked him back up I asked when he did for the rest of the day and he said when they went inside he read a book. I asked if he played with anyone and he said that he didn't.This isn't a new issue. His preschool teachers have talked to me about it all year. He prefers to be on the outskirts of the group and it's hard to get him involved. They do dance and yoga in the mornings and he rarely participates in that. We have him involved in sports. Right now is soccer season and it's not uncommon for him to walk off the field. I know this is to be expected at this age but neither of my older boys ever did this. He hasn't been invited to a birthday party since January and I know kids have had parties. The last time he went he sat down and didn't play with anyone, so I understand why he isn't getting invites.We live in a kid packed culdesac with a park at the end of the road. He does play with kids in our culdesac but none of them go to the same school since my boys go private and they go to the local public. Even then sometimes he'll separate himself. We have sleepovers most Friday nights since my 3 and best buddies with my friends 3 kids. It's not unusual for him to leave mid sleepover and go up to his bedroom to sleep.I'm not sure how worried I should be. We have had him evaluated for autism and he's not on the spectrum. We were concerned because we think he might be faceblind and there is an overlap between face blindness and autism, but while he might still be faceblind, we are confident it isn't autism. I think we are mostly concerned because my older boys are extroverts who get involved in everything but I don't want to compare my boys even though the age difference makes that easy to do.Should I be concerned or are some people naturally like this? I don't want him to be afraid of partipating in things but I don't want to push it so that he's miserable. We do limit his screen time to 30 minutes a day. He is my only kid who always uses his 30 minutes. I don't know if that has anything to do with it or not. Should we try cutting that time even more? He is starting kindergarten this fall and I'm worried about how he'll do in a more structured environment where he has to work with kids. via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2X1Nq4M
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