I pulled the rug out on our daughter and it worked.

I just finished a parenting book called How to make your children mind without losing yours. I realized that I am constantly nagging, begging and coaxing for our 9 year old to do her after school activities. She has chores to learn responsibility and she has to do her hw, shower, and pick her clothes out for the next day.She recently blew up and said she hates coming home because she has to shower and do all this stuff. It kind of pissed me off because i am already up to my gills in work to make sure she isn't overwhelmed. Usually when she gets home I make sure she gets all her tasks finished and still has time to do what she wants. It stresses us both out because I am constantly on her about completing every task then reminding her about the next one even though she knows what she needs to do.In the book, it talked about lovingly pulling the rug out from your kid so they could learn accountability and responsibility. So yesterday afternoon arrived and she got home from the bus. I didn't say a word about completing any tasks. She ate, she played with little sis, she watched tv, and she played some more. I had to resist the urge and told dad not to say anything either. 730 rolled around and she said she was going to get in the shower. She then started her homework at 745. At 800 I told her it was bedtime. She tried to argue that she hadn't finished her homework yet. I explained that she will have to figure out another way to complete her tasks and went through the whole bit about how it was important for her to learn responsibility and accountability. I told her she will have to tell her teacher she didnt do her hw bc she had other priorities. She cried and got mad at us but we knew this was driving the point home. I emailed her teacher and explained what was happening and that I had no doubt that she would learn rather quickly to complete her tasks rather than suffer the consequences.So this morning, to my surprise, when I woke up at 630 to go make sure she was up I realized she was already awake and had set her alarm for 6 oclock so she could finish her work! Yaayy! I was very proud that our girl decided to be proactive about her studies. Although she still didnt finish it all and will have to explain that to her teacher, i know we taught her a valuable lesson. I'm looking forward to tonight to see what she does! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Cqak0B