Grandparents

I know this is a common issue so I'm just trying to find some tips on how others have reconciled these feelings.My mom was not a great mom to me. She was way more obsessed with whatever man she was currently married to (three during my time as a child plus one more after I became an adult) and this lead to a lot of emotional abuse and neglect towards myself and my sister.Now I'm going to have a baby and all of a sudden she wants a do over and to be super grandma. Luckily we don't live near each other so the distance provides a bit of protection but I still resent the hell out of it. At the same time though, I don't want to say too much about it and deprive my child of a grandparent that wants to be a part of his life, send him nice presents, and love on him.So now I'm in this weird spot of thanking her for all of these gifts she keeps sending and trying to answer her constant messages about the pregnancy and the baby, etc when really I just want to tell her to fuck off. If you've been in this situation, how did you deal with it? What worked for you? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2osXmWd