I'm still shaking right now and I'm in need of some advice navigating what just happened. I went to the drugstore this afternoon after my boyfriend got home from work, he works a 7am-3pm 5 days a week and I'm a SAHM for our 10 month old. Therefore I let him sleep most nights and I tend to our child when she wakes for a feeding or diaper change etc. There is NO WAY he should be this tired. Upon arriving home I pulled into our driveway and I could immediately hear my daughter screaming at the top of her lungs so I dropped my bags and ran up the stairs faster than I've ever ran in my life. I walked into a scene that has left me severely upset/terrified. My SO was passed out on the living room floor (on the play mat where my daughter usually plays) and my daughter was on the other side of the room as she is quite mobile now, absolutely HYSTERICAL with a charger cord wrapped around her body and part of her neck. I immediately picked her up and unwrapped her and comforted her/calmed her down and went to the bedroom to feed her. Believe me, I wanted to go all full out ape shit on him, and it took everything I had not to immediately start screaming at the top of my lungs. I didn't want to put the baby through any more trauma so I waited for him to wake up. I told him we needed to talk immediately, explained to him the horror that I walked in on and how upset I was that he had put our child in danger and that it was totally not excusable. Well, he didn't think it was that big a deal and tried to turn the blame over me (for not yet completely babyproofing the living room) which I quickly shut down. He then proceeded to go to the bedroom to finish his nap. Yes, I've considered smothering him, if you were curious. I am shocked and disgusted, truly. This is not the first time something similar has happened but I gave him the benefit of the doubt and chalked it up to him being tired from work. On that occasion, I came home and she was in her crib a bit upset while he was on the bed, fast asleep and oblivious. Of course I was pissed but today is completely different, and who knows what would have happened if I was gone longer than 45 minutes. I should add as well, that he has been making snarky comments about my lack of a job at this time. We are in need of extra money and I have been looking for part time work during the hours that he is home. However, we cannot afford daycare so it would be him watching her, but how tf could I ever leave him with her now? Has anyone else dealt with something similar? Like wth do I do? If I wanted to be a single mother, I'd have done just that. Am I over reacting or should I send him off to his mother's house upon waking?! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2LNWzIH
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