Fighting with husband over whether to send kids to public or private school

My husband went to private school all the way through High School. I went to public school. There is NO denying that his education was better than mine, but his family sacrificed a lot to send their kids to private school. His dad worked 3 jobs and his mom worked 2. My husband even had to do work study at his HS to help pay for tuition, which he was always resentful about. Most importantly, he didn’t get to spend a lot of time with his Dad growing up because he was working 3 jobs to pay for all of their schooling. His dad passed away 20 years ago, when my husband was 28, and I know my husband wishes he had spent more time with him growing up.We both agree that we want a good education for our two kids (4y and 18mnths), but we live in an externally expensive area where the public school system isn’t that great (because everyone sends their kids to private schools), so my husband has always pushed that they will go to private school (something we really can’t afford). I’ve gone along and bought into the idea of picking up another job to help pay tuition, but I have always thrown in my 2 cents about working so much and not spending time with the kids. Not that it helps budge his opinion, but I try.Well, I recently looked up the schools in our area and was surprised to find that the closest elementary school to us is ranked pretty high across the board. It’s ranked as high if not higher than some of the magnet, charter and even private schools around. I was SO relieved and brought this information to my husband because I was so excited. He got this crappy attitude immediately and said that they’re still going to private school. That isn’t not just about academics, but the sense of community and blah blah blah. WE CANNOT AFFORD $13k-$19k A YEAR on school!! I want to scream that in his face, but of course I won’t.I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want him going out to get extra work just to pay for an education we can get for free down the street. He’s so closed minded to the idea of public schools and I just don’t know how to convince him otherwise.To top it all off, he said tonight that one of his best friends actually takes his child out of district to attend the public school in our neighborhood, because it’s a great school. He commutes 30 mins each morning to take her there, but for some reason it’s not good enough for our kids? I just don’t understand. We are living pay check to pay check right now and paying for our daughter’s preschool is tight enough. We seriously can’t afford more, especially when it’ll be both kids in school.If anyone has any advice or insight, I would greatly appreciate it. Even if you’re only for private education, an explanation of why that is your choice would be really helpful. Thanks. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2wfxm4N