About four months ago my daughter asked a playmate the "you show me yours and I'll show you mine" game. The boy told his mother the next day and she called me with concern about it because he mentioned she told him to keep it a secret. When I contacted her father, he said she'd done this with a friend at his house about a year prior but didn't give much detail like whether she asked the boy to keep it a secret or not.I got her in to therapy right away but last week her therapist dropped her saying she needs to deal with other issues before she can tackle whatever caused this behavior. (Her dad and I are fighting for custody, it's a mess of details.)Last night I went in to her room and her friend was at the end of the bed while my kid was laying on her back far away from each other. I asked what they were up to and my daughter said, "Practicing for when we have boyfriends." I said, "Are you guys kissing?" She said, "Yep, and we're using the bear to do this." She flipped over and made humping motions. I explained that's not a game you should be playing. She said, "But I'm not keeping it a secret. I just told you everything."I said she was probably making her friend uncomfortable, just like her friend from few months back was.I was like this when I was her age. But nothing was ever done about it at that time.I'm taking her to a new therapist today, or to get set up anyway.I'll be telling the friends mother today.Blah. I'm just... Ahhh ...Her dad had consented to therapy, then got upset when I put her in therapy, and showed up to one appointment out of a dozen or so. He's pretty useless and communication with him is damn near zero contact. He dropped her at my house for two weeks straight because he couldn't handle her tantrums and I tried keeping her longer due to other shit. So, that's why her therapist dropped her - she's too focused on the push and pull to focus on figuring out this behavior. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2wnrfLQ
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