Update: My husband doesn't let our kids pick out their own outfits and it creates unnecessary battles.

I made a post earlier this month about my husband and kids battling with clothes. It got way more attention than I thought it would and figured I would give an update since school just started and clothing is extra important now. It always kind of irks me when I take time to comment on a post and never hear about the outcome.Basically, my husband was creating a battle every morning with the kids about clothes because he didn't like them to walk around with clothes that don't go well together. This was creating hectic mornings with the little ones and I think it was contributing to my older son starting to care more about what other people think of his clothing.We talked about it and were able to see each others viewpoints. My husband thinks it's important that they look a certain way because people will judge them harsher if they aren't wearing the right clothes. My husband is black and our kids are biracial, so he talked about how white kids with messy hair or stained/unmatching clothing is just seen as a normal messy kid but a black kid dressed the same way gives off the impression of them being neglected or unloved. He is a teacher and has heard teachers talk negatively about what black kids are wearing (if they are dressed up nicely and come from a lower SES family the teachers say the parents should care more about other things than clothes, if they look messy then teachers talk about how they can't believe the mom would allow her child to walk out like that). He doesn't want our kids to wear any clothing that would portray them as poor, dirty, unloved, or a threat (no hooded sweatershirts). I told him that I understood his viewpoint.He also understood mine. I don't want to put so much emphasis on clothing that it's all our kids care about. Our older one is becoming a little brand obsessed and that's annoying. He told me that he couldn't wear the underwear or socks I picked out because they weren't the right brand. That isn't like him and I don't want him to become that way. My husband doesn't either so we talked about that. He wants our children to look presentable and take pride in their appearance but doesn't want them to focus too much on brands.We decided to buy clothing that is more versatile and goes with a lot. We got the kids a lot of shorts that were white, grey, black, or khaki. We got a lot of shirts that go with each pair of shorts. It's Texas so they don't wear pants much but we got some grey and black joggers and khaki, grey, black, and denim jeans. They have been able to have more say in their clothes because most of it doesn't clash when worn together. I think it was a good compromise. My 11 year old can get dressed without having to have the outfit pre approved by dad and the younger ones can pick out their own clothes with minimal interference. My 5 year old picked out her own outfits for school today and yesterday. The 2.5 year old starts daycare next week and should be able to pick out his clothes without any problems.Thanks to everyone who commented and recommended the above solution. I'm hoping we can roll with it for a while.https://ift.tt/2wrM1tY via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2PniuJ5