My ex and I are both 23 and our son is 6. When I was 19/20 I went through a really rough period and spiraled quickly out of control and developed an addiction to pills. I never used around my son except for once which was also the last time I got high. I passed out which of course left him unattended for a few hours. He didn’t get hurt and slept most of the time, but it couldve been very different and I feel extremely guilty for it and it haunts me every single day. I’ll never forgive myself for it and I don’t expect her to forgive me either.Again, that was the last time I got high and I checked myself into rehab and have been seeing a therapist to deal with the depression and anxiety that I used drugs to deal with. I’ve been completely clean for a little over three years and I have a steady job and I go to school, so I got myself together as best as I could and I’m doing much better.When I checked myself in, we agreed that if my son asked where I was after our initial conversation then he would be told that I was sick and had to go away for a little while so I could get better and that worked for him. Recently, my ex’s dad had to go to a rehab facility for a back injury and my son asked her what bone had I broken to have to go away like his grandpa did and I don’t know what the hell happened but she told him that I hadn’t broken anything, I was just a drug addict and very dangerous and scary person and told him about the incident with him and exaggerated what happened and even told him that I loved drugs more than I loved him. This obviously upset him and he’s been acting strange around me and doesn’t want to talk to me. I don’t know what to say or how to break it down so that he’ll understand what happened.As for my ex, I’m completely livid with her. When I confronted her about it, she confirmed what she said and told me that if I didn’t want him to know then I shouldn’t have been an addict. She always does this. She throws it in my face any and every time she can about the incident, my past drug use, and my depression and anxiety. She also holds it over my head that I have to play by her rules when it comes to him meaning that anytime i want to see him I have to beg her and I have to make sure that either she or one of my parents are with us in the same room at all times and even when i go over to her house To see him she limits my time to one hour and and if she doesn’t feel like having company then I just don’t get to see him. She throws it in my face that she could take him and leave and there is nothing I can do about it. I’ve been saving up any money I can to get a lawyer to fight for joint custody, but it’s taking a while as I need a good one since her dad is a really good lawyer and has guaranteed that he’ll set my ex up with one of his friends to make sure that I lose my case and full custody goes to her seeing as Im an ex addict and have mental health issues.Im sorry if this isn’t the most coherent and easy to understand. I’m really upset and frustrated right now. Please if anyone has any advice on what to say to her and what to say to my son and if there’s anything I can do regarding the custody situation while saving more money, I’d appreciate it so much. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2m7nXaF
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