So this isn't necessarily about my children but this happened with my (adopted) younger sister. She is six years old and yesterday when the babysitter picked her up from daycare she was informed that she had been caught choking another child with a jump rope, so hard that he had marks on his neck! Wtf?! I guess a teacher saw what was happening and stopped it immediately. My sister had no explanation for why she did it, and seemed kind of cold and detached from the whole thing. Apparently the child she choked has been nothing but nice to her in the past and she can give no reasoning as to why he made her so upset that she had to physically choke him ?I feel like this is some scary / concerning shit. Especially the fact that she has no idea why she did it and doesn't really even seem to feel bad about it.A little backstory here, my mom adopted these two children about three years back. My brother is now ten and his sister is six years old. They were terribly neglected as children, which is why they were taken away from their biological parents. They were two of five siblings however my mom couldn't handle taking any more kids (understandable, the siblings are out of control and my parents are in their 50's) but they do see their siblings every couple weeks in supervised visits. So who knows what they saw when they were young. She could have easily seen someone choking somebody else, we just don't know. As far as we know they weren't physically abused.These kids have always been great and wonderful with my children- who are 2yrs and 4mos old. They play nicely and seem to love it when my kids come over. They've always been kind and I love them dearly, however part of me has always been afraid of them growing up and becoming somewhat hateful for what had happened to them. Hateful maybe towards my parents, towards my kids, maybe just life in general? I'm not sure, never really dealt with something like this before.Not only am I concerned for my parents wellbeing and what kind of children they have on their hands for the rest of their lives, but I'm also concerned about the safety of my family as well. Typically my 2yr old will stay over there on the weekend for a few hours. She has been left alone w/ my sister for short periods of time, always within an earshot but sometimes they will play in her room and we have never thought anything of it. We could hear everything that they were doing so if they ever needed an adult we were right there. However, now I'm terrified of this girl choking my kids, or being violent with them in any way whatsoever. Who knows what she is capable of. If she can choke a child to the point of him having marks on his neck, without any reason to set her off, then what if my two yr old pisses her off or something by taking one of her toys or whatever, then what?I want to know if I am overreacting for not letting my kid stay there without me. ABSOLUTELY NO time for my daughter w/ my sister is no unsupervised. No matter what. That is just a rule now that is set in stone. I don't want to take away time with the grandparents but the safety of my children is obviously number one and I'm feeling pretty concerned about this whole thing. The problem is that my mom doesn't seemed that tainted by it. She naturally acts chill about everything, but some things are worth getting upset about and I just can't seem to understand why my sisters barely even being punished for this shit.If anyone works w/ kids who have had troubled pasts, or just violent kids in general, do you have any idea what this is a sign for? Is it a red flag for worse things to come in the future? Love these kids, but damn this freaked me out. I'm surprised she didn't get kicked out of daycare or anything. They said one more incident and she's out.Thanks for reading. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2tBq2ke
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