I just need a random place to vent, so even if this falls on deaf ears (blind eyes?) it's all good.A bit of background, my wife and I have been together for nearly 8 years, and we just came home from the NICU with our new baby daughter about a month ago. My wife is an amazing woman: thoughtful, caring, funny, etc., etc, but ever since our daughter has been home it's been very rough. She had the baby blues and was very down for awhile. She's since moved past this (so she seems) and is mostly back to her normal self... except when it comes to feeding time for our newborn.If I don't do anything as she would, or if I miss something (use one diaper wipe to clean her after she soils herself instead of two), then I'm usually the butt end of condescending remarks. I usually bite my tongue because it's not anything to fight back on, especially considering the pettiness of it all, but it's really getting tiresome.Tonight, my wife was sleeping on the couch and I woke up to feed our newborn in the middle of the night. Our daughter squirms, makes a little fuss and gags on her own tongue/saliva. My wife jolts up and instantly accuses me of doing something wrong. I'm there, holding the bottle and barely even started. I bite my tongue to prevent any lashing out, and plainly tell her she gagged and we hadn't started.The first ounce of milk goes down no problem, and I burped our child as usual. She went back down to feed some more but started to get drowsy (she's going through a growth spurt it seems, since she's been sleeping more than usual). She'll push the bottle out with her tongue, chew on the nipple without latching, or just keep her mouth closed.30 minutes go by and she's only drank two ounces. Some air bubbles escape and make a scary sucking sound, and my wife jolts up and accused me of doing something wrong. She makes a statement, "at least you don't have to worry and lost sleep when I'm feeding her." That level of condescension was the last straw for me. I had done nothing wrong yet I'm the butt of every condescending statement or joke. We argue. My only request to her was to be kinder and show appreciation for me. She scoffs and asks me if I'm serious. She declares that I should just learn how to feed our daughter (side note: I've helped raise my two younger siblings from birth. I know a thing or two about feeding a newborn).She gave me one more condescending remark and lay down to sleep. I'm still holding our daughter up after her feeding time, and just frustrated beyond belief.What do you fellow dads do to cope? How do you help to compromise or see your wife's POV? How do you keep the peace and your sanity?Thanks, Frustrated via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2nRtXWd
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