We've been together for 5 years. I will be the first to admit that this will be from my perspective, and there will be a side to the story that I am not accounting for. I can't speak for him. To put a long story short, we were dating for a mere 3 months before I moved to a different country. While I was in that country, I was raped and became pregnant. Despite multiple attempts to break up with him (I did not want him to throw his life away for a child that wasnt his, and wanted to give him outs if he felt like he had to stay), he decided to stay and told me I would be crazy to face this alone. At that point we were together for 8 months. When I met him, he was employed, happy and driven. When I moved back to the states, he quit his job to live with me. For four years, he has been unemployed, unhappy, and put a lot of pressure on me to make him happy. I work full time, I am a full time student, I work out, and I try my best to be a good mom. I feel like I am doing everything capable to make him happy and set the family up well for the future. All I ask is that he takes at least one online class to show to me that he's trying to move towards the future and help support the family. He does a great job as a stay at home dad, but he is the first one to admit that he has been emotionally abusive to me for many years. Recently we have been arguing that I need to get over the fact that he was abusive and move on... but as soon as I hear the word abuse, I assume I should move on so my son doesn't see the relationship as a healthy example. He has a lot of mental health issues that hes battling, and I'm trying to be understanding. But I have sacrificed a lot in my life, and im wondering if I should keep going and fighting. I havent been happy for years but hes threatening to completely leave my sons life if we break up. Im incredibly worried about my sons wellbeing and am currently staying because I'd rather have my son be happy and healthy than myself. When is it too much? What would you do?Tldr; My boyfriend is threatening to completely leave my sons life after being the father figure for almost 4 years. Do I sacrifice my happiness for my sons best interest? Should I keep fighting for the relationship? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2iZg0Eu
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