A Christmas miracle ladies and gentleman!Not long ago, I posted here about my soon-to-be-stepson and his unexplainable fear towards me that was becoming a huge problem in our relationship and our future relationship as a family.And I’m happy to announce that we made a huge step forward on Christmas Eve!Long story “short”, my fiancé and I, thought it would be a good idea to spend Christmas together, so she invited me and my son to spend Christmas Eve at their house and open presents together the following morning. The entire evening, everything was awkward, as expected between my stepson and I, but I could sense there was something different about the awkwardness.Usually, my stepson acts very intimidated in my presence. He never makes eye contact and rarely speaks to me (only if I speak first). But this time it was different. He was glaring at me with genuine dislike the entire time we were cooking that turkey and he looked on the verge of tears. I felt horrible because it felt like I ruined Christmas for him and he clearly hated having me in his house (even though he didn’t say anything and was really kind to my son). So, when I got a second alone with him in the kitchen, I asked him if I did something to offend him.And that’s when it happened. He yelled at me! But not for the reasons I thought he would… He yelled, and I quote “why did you have to take insert-girl-name-here away from me”. It took me a while to understand what was going on but then everything clicked!I’m his ballet instructor and once a week the young male dancers and the young female dancers of our academy, have a joined lesson where they learn how to dance with a partner. Two months ago, I assigned him a girl partner that apparently he fell in love with and was trying to confess his love to her, when all of the sudden, I reassigned all the couples and gave that girl a new partner.He wasn’t angry at me for destroying Christmas, he couldn’t care less for Christmas! So, I apologized to him, explained the situation and together we spent the entire evening talking (thankfully my fiancé disappeared with my son and let us bond) about that girl and his big crush on her. I gave him advice and for the first time we talked and laughed. He’s a really great kid.And it wasn’t just a one-time thing. Christmas morning, he greeted me, we exchanged presents, played videogames, and he even told me that “I suck” at Mario cart! I know that our relationship still needs a lot of work and time but honestly, I think that was a great start and I’m so excited to learn more about him and have him and his mom be a part of our family!Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year, everybody! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2ibuksL
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