I apologize, this is long! Not well written, as I'm pretty upset. I appreciate all of you that would read this and offer your opinions!TL;DR at end of post.Little background, I have 4 kids, oldest (6F) whom I had in a previous relationship prior to my husband. She spends one weekend a month during the school year and 6 weeks of the summer with her dad, stepmom and stepsister, they live about 3 hours away. My daughter's stepsister is 10 years old and is a super bad influence on my daughter. Everytime she comes home from visiting she always acts out a little, like wild or will do things she's normally not allowed to at home. It typically takes a couple days to get her back to her normal self and routine.My ex would always tell me how bad his step daughter is and how she throws tantrums and how they can't control her. I've seen her act out a few times and not listen to my ex when I go and pick my daughter up. It makes me uncomfortable knowing my daughter is there. My ex is already a pretty bad person/parent but then adding this child they obviously can't control makes it worse. I feel like my ex only wants to spend time with our daughter to occupy the little monster of a step child and now it's negatively affecting her. When my daughter is there it's a free for all household, no rules and everything goes.My daughter went to her dad's for 6 weeks, when I got her back home I could tell something was off.... She wasn't "Miss happy go lucky", she almost seemed down and almost kind of depressed. I kept asking what was wrong, she said she just had a bad couple days. She had told me she fell a few times and didn't like the long drive. I didn't think much of it.A few days go by and she is still not my happy go lucky girl. I've noticed her poking at her butt more than usual, more than an itch. Red flag, right? I pull her aside and ask her about it, obviously she shuts down and just says it itches. I didn't want to pry too much and just told her not to touch it like that.Well, I come home from work, my husband's working in his office, I ask him where the kids are and he says in their room. Doors closed.... it's never closed. I open the door and see one child asleep on the floor, another playing with toys, my 3rd jumping on the bed, and my oldest....sitting there, underwear off and touching herself. I freak out, kick all the little ones out except my 6year old, I take a minute, big breath... And calmly talk to her about what she was doing. I asked her what she was doing, why she was doing it, and who taught her to do it. I also told her to tell me the truth because if she tells the truth she won't get in trouble, but if she lies there will be grounding and alot of trouble!! She tells me her step sister taught her to do it. I asked if anyone has touched her there before and she told me her stepsister has once! She gave me the details and everything. It was hard for her to tell me, she was crying and all. I had asked her where her stepsister learned it from. Her stepsister apparently learned from her brother, who lives with her dad.After all was said and done I told her I would have to tell her Dad. When I said that she took everything back and said she taught it to herself, she "thought it" and "did it". She started to deny everything. So now I don't know what to believe or do! My husband sat down with her and asked her. She again denied her stepsister ever touched her. He then straight asked her, "when did she touch you?" Then my daughter told him and he asked how many times. She gave all the same details she told me.My husband and I held her, told her we loved her. Told her what happened to her was not okay. Anyone have any advice on how to proceed with this?? I don't even know where to start. I just feel sick that this happened to my child!TL;DR- my child spent 6 weeks with Dad, stepmom, stepsister. Came home acting different. Said she was sexually abused by stepsister, later denied it. Not sure what to believe or how to handle it. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2w4RqHa
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