Picture this:I come downstairs, Partner in office working, son (3yo) in family room crying wanting attentionI am making breakfast. Partner standing in the middle of the kitchen, engrossed in her phone, complaining about work thingsSitting at breakfast table. Partner quiet, declares herself mad at me. Not interacting with me or kid at all until we leave the house for daycareIn the evening ... partner berates son for not allowing her to take time to clean the houseWhen I (kindly) ask to be present with family, I get a lessons about my own failings. (Which are not in dispute, however I don't think I am getting through)I feel like parenting is hard. Okay maybe hard isn't the right word, nothing you do is difficult, but it's definitely exhausting. It has been a tough life change for me. It's really a bittersweet experience, I would never give it up, but I also gave up a lot. I got used to postponing my own desires or problems... Maybe too much so? I still have me time, just usually after bedtime or on weekends (or at work!). I honestly don't think my partner has the same priorities. Or maybe she just lacks situational awareness? I didn't really have to learn to pay attention to my kid and move reading e-mail and watching TV to other times of the day. It just seemed obvious? How do I tell her? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2LO0mKR
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