Hello all,I have a 4.5 year old girl who is very bright and funny but has a severely stubborn side that is honestly creating a lot of strain on myself and my marriage. We give her a lot of attention and inclusion but it is nearly impossible to get her to be more than 10ft from us at all times if we are home (and sometimes on play dates) She is NOT shy or anxious and can be incredibly imaginative but only on her watch. If she doesn’t like what kids are playing, she will spin into her own orbit which is fine but then it means she’s usually (forgive my language) up the adults asses when we are trying to have conversation...She has lately developed a serious issue of not ‘stopping’ an undesirable action (annoying sound/feet in our face/annoying the cat/screaming for fun) and will continue to do it 5-6 more times basically until we lose our shit. She also Seems to have to constantly make noise, humming a song/singing/whatever other annoying mouth sounds kids do but CONSTANTLY, I’m totally fine and understanding kids are kids but if we are doing literally anything she isn’t slightly into, out come the sounds until we get angry...😩. Not to mention the extreme amounts of back-talk and sass mouth commentary when we ask her to do something or get on to her. Always has to have the last word sort of deal.The second issue is that she doesn’t like to go play quietly/softly in her room. If we walk away from her or start making dinner/clean/can’t see her in general...thinking she will at least play in the living room, chances are she just takes opportunities alone to do everything bad she can think of and then gets in trouble. Even doing an activity like coloring is okay for 4 minutes before she deviates and starts breaking/unwrapping crayons/ coloring anything BUT paper...Her behavior choices have not been great the last few months. We understand she has had some transitions over the summer AND starting preschool but she has had excellent behavior days and we have tried to make the jumbled summer schedule easy with lots of chill time/family time/fun days but it seems to just be getting more intense...I’ve tried making charts/rewards but that’s isn’t a long term solution because she will be excellent until she gets her treat for filling up a chart and it’s back to her old behavior...we do time outs, she doesn’t seem to care, she will cry and seem remorseful but when we go and talk to her she just thinks it’s ‘funny’ and ignores us...spanking is not desirable and also doesn’t work and I hate the concept...yelling makes me feel better short term but it just exacerbates behaviors...ignoring poor behavior works sometimes but she seems impenetrable to forms of discipline. I’m seriously in need on some help against my strong willed child. I’m sure I’m missing some factors/examples but it just seems like she just so different than most kids her age and just needs to create problems. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2vAMGYS
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