My son has always been very smart and gifted since birth, and my ex wife and I always talked about how he's going places. We split up after Son #2 was born who is now 25M, and both of us remarried.27M was always good about being responsible as a kid. He got good grades and followed most rules without being reminded, he just fought with his brother constantly until he lost all privileges. He said his brother was an asshole and thief and hated us for giving him a sibling. As an adult, he still resents his brother and doesn't speak to him at all.The two grew up and my first son started babysitting his baby sister (now 17F) every night without any problems while my second son was constantly in trouble with school and the law. He got terrible genes from his mom's side of the family and we couldn't keep him out of trouble. As an adult, he's knocked up three loser women and lives with one and a friend who has literally been to prison. I've always had worry about something happening to my grandkids, nieces or nephew, or if my son's going to need to be bailed out of jail in the middle of the night, and I admit my older son has only been on the back of my mind as I never doubted he would make something of his life.Instead he got done with college with good grades and then did nothing. Four months unemployed followed by a grocery store job. Four months unemployed, then he stayed at an office job he hated until he got fired a year later. Then I got him a job and he told me after a year that he hated it forever but still hasn't quit. He makes only $11 an hour and it was supposed to be temporary. He doesn't go out and talk to anyone. He goes to work and pays his bills, but then sits in bed until the next morning. My wife doesn't like him because he comes over and criticises us for never cleaning our house when we both have jobs and a little girl. I don't know what went down between them but they hate each other and my son blames my wife for being a total B to him and sexually abusing him. And she acts like he hates her for not being his mom, he's a loser, he's ungrateful, and he has all sorts of mental illnesses she finds out about on TV. I want the two to make up but they are both stubborn little girls.I don't want my son to kill himself. I want him to do something with his life and be happy. I would support him all the way if he came to me with some goals other than sitting in bed blaming his step mom and brother for everything. He doesn't want a better apartment, better car, girlfriend, or anything that tends to motivate adults. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2O7XsNN
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