I'm a new mom to an almost 7-month old baby boy.When I was about 8 years old, I noticed how stressed and worked up my parents were in taking care of us to the point that they would snap at us for being rowdy and silly. My mom always using her high toned voice became normal for all of us because we got used to it. She seemed irritated all the time even if she was just explaining things. I never seemed to care much until I spent more time at my other friends' houses and witnessed how calm, happy, and easy going their families were. And when a friend was over ours I had to warn them that we were used to using high toned voices in the family all the time so they wouldn't be surprised.I swore then that when I become a parent someday I would be cool and chill.But now I think I finally understand why she was like that. Looking back, I would only listen to my mom when she's at the point of getting angry.My son isn't even a toddler yet but I'm already having a hard time getting him to act right when I'm the one holding him. He screams and acts out from time to time like something is wrong. I try and exhaust all options and he only calms down (even laughs and smiles) when I hand him over to someone else. It's sometimes makes me sad and frustrated that others see him as a happy and contented baby (because he is when he is with them) and they don't believe when I tell them how high-needs this baby is.Don't get me wrong. We have a good bond. He smiles and laughs with me but easily gets bored. Maybe it's because I'm an introvert and laid-back while he's a very social baby.Now I know he's still a baby and nothing seems to be a problem here but I'm thinking maybe I don't know if I can continue with my gentle and chill parenting approach with my son.I tried a stern tone with him one day and he just smiled and giggled at me. lolThere's still a long list of things I wanted to do differently but I don't know now. Parenting isn't something you can really plan. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2F4Sdui
No comments:
Post a Comment