My partner(F32) of 2 years wants to know if I (M38) want kids soon - I'm really struggling with the decision.ConsI love my alone time, am easily upset if I can't control my environment and have spent much time and effort getting my job into a position where i can take downtime whenever I need to.I'm less keen still on the idea of getting married. But maybe we live in modern times and this isn't a deal breaker.I was looking forward to semi-retiring early, but having a kid would put quite a dent in these plans.I don't find natural enjoyment from family, be it christmas or time with nephews. I'd much rather just be independent. I find spending time with nephews etc quite difficult.I don't like the idea of a child feeling a burdon of responsibility in my old age.There is a history of ADHD and mild Schizophrenia in the family. I worry about heritabilty, and my ability to cope with learning disabilites in the child I think would be probably below average.ProsI feel like I will be missing out on a huge part of life and connection to humanity that will deprive me of a richer life experience.by choice I’m super introverted and a home body. Don’t socialise much, so I have the time.i feel like I have been quite successful in eliminating stress and responsibility from my daily life, to the extent that I feel that perhaps I have some capacity to take a bit of extra suffering on board.I don't have any alternative plans for what to do with the time. I would just drift and watch life go by.I don't feel like it is very likely i will have this opportunity again.i do find raising puppies fun and find toddlers pretty funny. Teenagers scare the life out of me though.Any comments of any kind most appreciated. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2EwTB9v
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