How do you teach a 3yo to express anger in a healthy way?

I’ve (26F) struggled with expressing emotions in healthy ways my entire life. I typically react in anger first whenever I feel any strong emotion (disappointment, frustration, anxiety, fear, sadness) until I work out what the actual emotion is. I’ve been in therapy on and off for the past year or so, so I started to recognize this pattern. I also read everything I can get my hands on about handling emotions in a healthy and positive way. I’m trying to teach my son how to healthily manage a full range of emotions while learning/teaching it to myself. It’s hard.However, I’m at a loss because I’m not sure what a healthy expression of anger is. I’ve noticed him occasionally getting angry instead of sad/scared/upset when those seem like the more appropriate response for the situation (i.e. taking away a toy as a consequence or getting frustrated when he’s misunderstood). He lashes out quickly, and I’m afraid he’s got a temper like mine. He’s an extremely sweet, thoughtful and bright child 85% of the time. He does seem to know how to express other emotions, but I’ve found myself unable to explain to him the appropriate response to anger.So far, I’ve tried helping him recognize when he’s angry, so we’re at a point where he just yells “I’M ANGRY” at the top of his lungs. Instead of hitting and biting and throwing things (some of the issues we had at 2 years old), I told him he could jump up and down, punch pillows, go into his room and yell at the top of his lungs. These might seem silly, but those are basically the only harmless actions I could think of that a 3yo could do and understand.I’m starting to worry though that those aren’t actually healthy responses to anger. Should I be teaching him to express anger physically at all? He’s a giant 3yo, and he will probably be a large man. His dad is 6’6”. Maybe that doesn’t matter, but I don’t like the idea of him still “punching walls” when he’s a grown man.He’s not quite old enough to journal his thoughts or draw a picture of how he feels, so I’m looking for advice. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2DSXxUR