Sunday, 2 July 2017

We have a 3 months old child at 22 and my fiancee wants to give up now


My fiancee resents me for making her pregnant now and then, and she said she wants her life back where she can go back to university to do her Master degree in Sociology (she got pregnant while she was at uni last August 2016). I am still at university and I have 1.5 years left to complete my Electrical Engineering degree in California. My fiancee is from the UK and I am from Vietnam. She has post natal depression, and it only gets worse when she sees all the disturbing news about whats going on with the world (sexuality, gender roles, feminism). She said she feels hopeless because she is stuck with our baby boy now and she can't pursue what she wants to do. I have offered her the best I could (we have financial support from my parents), but she still blames me for everything ( I feel disregarded and hopeless)I love my little boy and I know she does too. We argue so much when I took a semester out to be around her in the UK during her pregnancy. She doesnt appreciate my parents' help fiancially or my help physically and emotionally. She has a low sex drive and I watch porn to get my high sex drive off me. She got really upset because she thinks I like to look at other woman. Yet I masturbate because I feel stress and I know she doesn't want to have sex with me.I know people will have different opinions and will go against me. But I want to be honest and I want to know what is the right thing to do.I feel like I have to change myself to make her happy, but the more I give up myself, the worse it gets (to the point I feel our relationship is a complete ruin and broken).I tried to talk her out and offer her that my parents will help me look after my boy while I continue my study (rather giving him up for adoption as she suggested). I love my boy but I know my current situation I wont be able to support him later in life, so I have to complete my degree. She doesn't like the idea and she rejected it.Next, she is afraid that her parents would disown her because she would give up her child for adoption. She does not like this idea either.She rejected everything, and stayed negative. As a fiance, I feel hopeless on all level sexually, emotionally, physically and spiritually. I love her but it's getting too difficult. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2tBBuvy

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