My son won't recover from setbacks

I've experienced that pattern with my 7yo son a couple of times now, but I'll explain it with the latest occurrence: In October he joined a Judo beginners course. As long as there where only the beginners around he had fun and was quite excited to be there. When the beginners course ended, we signed him up for the Judo club, where he is supposed to do the training with some boys who started with him in the beginners course, but also some yellow belts that have a little more experience than he does.As it happens, the first training randori against one of the little more experienced boys didn't go well for him. He was thrown faster than he expected, and he fell harder than he liked it. I saw that event, and even though I admit it was not a nice experience, it was still well in the parameters of what we expect to happen in a training randori.Since then, he doesn't want to go to the Judo course. His mother and I agree that this is not an option for him (see below why). But when I bring him anyway, he just refuses to take part. Not only in the randori, which is about 5-10 min out of a 75 min lesson, but everything. Including all the games he loved so much before.Now, if this was only in the context of this Judo club I might let it go and say "well, maybe Judo is not for him after all". But it was the same pattern with handball before, and soccer, and even to some degree with the swimming course. Whenever the first good experiences have been experienced, and the training starts to require some effort, or he has some sort of setback, he will try to wiggle out.So, our strategy is to keep bringing him there. And if this means that he'll sit at the side for the next 2 months, so be it. But silently I wonder if there is something else we could do, and with that I don't mean yet another club. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2GuvurV