My (32/f) son (17/m) is acting out and I think it’s because I’m pregnant

I was advised to crosspost to hereI had my son at 15 and have raised him this long without any help from his biological father who left when he found out I was pregnant, so my son and I were very close up until about 3 years ago.My husband and I have been together for 5 years, married for 3 , but my son knew my husband before we got married and was fine with him, so I just chalked it up to him being a teenage boy with hormones and going through changes. Then I got pregnant a couple months after We got married and unfortunately had several complications in the first few months and lost the baby. It was a really rough few months and I can admit that I didn’t pay enough attention to my son, but I thought we’d gotten past it. Then I got pregnant again and he just got worse, this time being disrespectful to both me and my husband and being harsh towards the baby. Things started getting slightly better and he toned down the attitude mostly but still shut me out.Then I found out that I was pregnant again a couple months ago, and it turns out that my due date falls within a few days of my sons graduation date which I’m really upset about. I never ever wanted to have to choose between my kids ever, and it feels like that’s what I’m doing. I know that babies don’t always necessarily come on the due date, but even within those few days around his graduation, I most likely won’t be able to make it. We’ll also be moving to a different state to be closer to my husband’s family at the end of May to help out with childcare as I plan to go back to work at some point. I feel terrible about all of this and I sat my son down and tried explaining everything to him but he really was not interested in hearing anything I had to say and that was pretty much the last thing he’s said to me. He said Merry Christmas and that was it.He’s pretty much gone from the time he gets up in the morning until curfew. He won’t answer his phone when he’s out, he’s neglecting his chores around the house and I’m not completely sure, but I think he was drunk when he came home last night which would’ve meant that he was drinking and driving and I really really hope that’s not true, it’s so unlike him.Im so worried about him he seems to be getting worse and I don’t know what to do or how to make him open up or how to get him help. I don’t know why this all started but it’s only progressing and I don’t want him to do anything to ruin his future. Plus being under constant stress isn’t good for the baby. This whole situation is a mess and I’m lost on how to get through to my son.Tldr: Son has been acting out since I told him I was pregnant and has been getting more and more reckless and I’m lost on what to do. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2D32M0v