My 14 year old daughter refuses to see her father and he is blaming me for it.

Her dad and I have been separated for a few months now. I couldn't deal with the numerous amounts of infidelity so I decided that we needed to get a divorce soon. She knows a lot about what happened because we got into so many arguments over it and they were LOUD! My daughter knows what he has done and she resents him 100% for it. I don't bad mouth him around her nor do I even talk about the situation. She chooses not to see him on her own, and I'm not going to force her to do anything she doesn't want to do. That isn't the only reason that she is angry with him though. Her birthday was in November and I told her that she should invite him to her birthday dinner. He couldn't go the exact day because he had to work and told her that he would have a dinner with her the week after. The week after, she reminds him about it and he says that he forgot and couldn't do it because he had plans with a woman he was seeing. After that she wanted no contact with him. She doesn't answer any of his calls, she's blocked him on social media, stuff like that. She made a status that was pretty explicit saying something about "good for nothing @$$ fathers." Somehow I'm the one being blamed for all of this. He leaves me texts saying that I'm "keeping her away from him" and that I'm "brainwashing her."I've just simply told him that if he learned to stop putting everything before her, then he wouldn't be in this situation. I didn't tell her to block him from her life or to blame him for anything. She chose that on her own accord. She's not a little kid. She is old enough to decide how she feels about someone or something without me being there to point her in the "right" direction. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2D2Hi3M