My mother in law has been asking about our childcare plans since we told her I was pregnant right after peeing on a stick, so we’ve been brushing it off as too early to discuss until now, as I just hit 12 weeks .. We love the thought of having grandparents watch our baby, but could use some input.Our baby will need to be with someone from 8-230, occasionally 330, Mon-Fri.My mom works 1-2 days a week, my dad still works full time, and I don’t see him slowing down anytime soon. My father in law is retired (with a pension), but stays very busy with projects around their house and skiing/fishing at least once a week. My mother in law still works full time but has started slowing down and may go to part time soon.My mom brought up plans for child care last night (I think my mom and my MIL may be in cahoots), and I asked her what she thought would be reasonable. Without hesitation, she said that she would watch our baby 5 days a week... my husband and I both are hesitant for anyone to watch our baby 5 days per week, as they all have their own stuff going on and they deserve to have their own lives too. I suggested that we could have each set of parents take 2-3 days per week, alternating who gets the third day each week. She seemed thrilled by the idea of this, and I’ll pitch it to my in-laws the next time they ask, which I’m sure isn’t far away.I’m sure that neither set of parents will ask for payment, and I’ve read conflicting advice on various blogs about payment for a grandparent, but I feel so strange not at least offering.I guess right now my struggle is how much to offer without being insulting, in both directions. How much would be too much to consider or too little to even to be worth it to them? If they won’t accept payment, what are other suggestions for what we could do for them on a regular basis to show our appreciation??Also, we would probably feel more comfortable with a flat weekly or monthly payment instead of hourly, just to make life easier.Any advice and/or ballpark figures would be appreciated! We live in suburban upstate NY, so not quite astronomical city prices for daycare, but not quite inexpensive like in the rural areas. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2F7efga
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